Thursday, March 26, 2009

Fairness WV

Apparently my last post was a tad premature. As soon as I posted it I saw a link on my own site for this group. Maybe things aren't as bad as I thought.

Really Discouraged Today

It seems as though there is no end in the future to all the anti gay rhetoric. Now my state, West Virginia, looks like it's going to be the next battle ground on the marriage/discrimination front. The Family Policy Council of West Virginia, which is aligned with Focus on the Family is lobbying the state to add a referendum on the ballot, Even though our governor, Joe Manchin has stated that our existing law is sufficient and no challenge has arisen. West Virginia doesn't have much of a gay community, at least that I have seen. I guess in Wheeling, Charleston, Morgantown, Parkersburg and a few other cities may have some but in the area I am located there doesn't seem to be much of anything.
Most of the "christians" in this state, at least the ones I know, blindly follow the likes of Dr. Dobson without much thought, you would think his words were as equal to Jesus'. Sometimes I just don't feel like there is much use in fighting this fight anymore. I often wonder why God allows people who I know love and follow Him and pray religiously, and are never moved to even consider this issue.

Wednesday, March 25, 2009


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Friday, March 13, 2009

It's Time for the Gloves to come off- Part 1

Most of the ex-gays that you hear from will tell you that they left the "gay lifestyle" because they were unhappy with it. I understand the rationale, because most of the "testimonies" that you hear or read talk about how they were throwing themselves away in the bars, bookstores, promiscuity, and the debauchery that goes with a partying lifestyle (whether one be homosexual or heterosexual). For most that is the only exposure to being gay that they have, it was that way for me.
In 1990 I dropped out of bible college and left the ministry and yes, I threw myself full long into sex, drinking, promiscuity, overeating, making bad choices, etc. etc. I would occasionally attend the MCC church in Charlotte, NC but could never seem to reconcile being gay and being a Christian. It is a struggle that has taken about 18 years but has come around.

Exodus should quit demonizing

I just finished reading Alan Chamber's latest article for Charisma magazine and you know I have just about had all that I can take. Alan is the president of Exodus International, an umbrella organization for ex-gay ministries, and is becoming more and more politically involved even though they say they are not. Exodus practices doublespeak better than any D.C. politician I have ever witnessed. They say they believe in self determination for gays and ex-gays(meaning they should have the option to choose) but they work at every hand to take away the rights of those of us who want to live our lives the way we see fit. Ok, Alan I get it, you were not happy in the gay "lifestyle" as you call it. We get IT, We GET IT, WE GOT IT! but demonizing other people who don't share your interpretation of scripture is Wrong! Do you do that, oh yes and you're very good at it. Whenever you say that we, who disagree with you, are deceived or being lied to or are plain out being deceptive you demonize us and that is wrong of you.

Monday, March 2, 2009

What do you do when you're the ultimate oxymoron?

I have been wrestling with this question for a long time now. I really am the ultimate oxymoron, not the only one, but definitely I am one. I am an evangelical, Reagan conservative, Republican, and oh yeah, I am gay also. Most of the time I just don't fit it and I am still trying to find my place. I don't fit in at church because I have been able to reconcile my faith and my sexuality. I don't fit in to the gay community here, what there is of it. So I guess since I don't have a place to fit in, I need to make my own. So that is what I am in the process of doing now.