Tuesday, December 1, 2009
I have also been thinking of the many people who have had to suffer above what the disease did to them because of the people around them; especially the church and Christians, or so called Christians. The countless numbers of stories of gay men whose family threw them away upon learning of their disease. The men who had never even told their family that they were gay let alone HIV+, only to have their families not even claim their body from the morgue upon learning why they died.
I have tried to understand, but I just can't seem to. I didn't understand when it happened to me 19 years ago and I don't understand it now. Maybe one day I will. A guy can be a hardened serial killer, on death row and the night of his execution total strangers will hold a candle light vigil to protest the cruelty of putting another human being to .death. His mother will hold a picture telling all who'll listen just how wonderful he was. However, let a straight A student, dedicated, loves his family, loves God and people also. Kind, warm, caring, compassionate, intelligent, well mannered, well adjusted. But let that gay kid tell people that he's gay and he is disowned by his family, rejected by his church and harassed by total strangers and politicians alike; all in the name of God, to the point of doing horrible things to his mind and body and often destroying his life or out right taking of his life, and society doesn't blink an eye, his family forgets about him, and the church decries it as a victory.
God I just don't understand!
Friday, August 14, 2009
If I don't get my weight under control, it's in my near future. I don't want this, I can beat this, I can do this.
Now comes the time, where I have to do this more because I want to look better, or even feel better. Now, I am afraid it's becoming more of a live or die soon kind of thing.
Monday, August 10, 2009
So what changed, well definitions changed that's what. Heterosexuality was no longer the opposite of homosexuality, holiness was. How does that "theology" fit in to a group who says that they believe in a person's right to self determination. You have an impressionable gay teen who really wants to be acceptable to God, family and church; how does his ability to self determine stand up against such rhetoric? How about the Christian parents, totally devastated by the news that the son or daughter whom they love with all their being is gay or lesbian? They obviously turn to their spiritual leader who will look to CBN, Focus on the Family, or Exodus and this is the rhetoric that they get.
They will turn to Exodus in hopes of their child being "healed". They believe them at their words. "We left homosexuality behind", only to find out that what they have done is denied those attractions and desires. Sorry folks, denial is not healing. Getting married to a woman when you really want to marry your best man, is not healing.
Wednesday, June 10, 2009
Saturday, June 6, 2009
I am setting here doing some reading and studying, on hell actually. It’s something that’s been on my heart for awhile. Don’t worry I am not that strange, I will post about it at a later time. Anyhow I came across a few verses, that I have heard all my life and preached a few sermons on and some thoughts popped into my head that I wanted to share.
For it is written, As I live, saith the Lord, every knee shall bow to me, and every tongue shall confess to God.
So then every one of us shall give account of himself to God.
Let us not therefore judge one another any more: but judge this rather, that no man put a stumbling block or an occasion to fall in his brother's way.
especially verse 13- Let us not judge one another anymore,but judge this rather, that no man put a stumbling block or an occasion to fall in his brother’s way.
(I have inserted the Greek from Strong’s dictionary)
Properly to distinguish, that is, decide (mentally or judicially); by implication to try, condemn, punish: - avenge, conclude, condemn, damn, decree, determine, esteem, judge, go to (sue at the) law, ordain, call in question, sentence to, think.
How many have been driven away from God or kept away from Him because of the behavior and treatment that they have received at the hands of so called Christians. The church, especially the Evangelical and the fundamentalist branches are full of judgments and condemnations of people and entire groups of people.
The church has come along way in regards to it’s treatment of racial minorities and women, there’s still a lot to do, but progress has been made. It’s now time for the church to stop being a stumbling block or a hindrance to gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgendered people from coming into the family of God.
Friday, June 5, 2009
I’m definitely frustrated, bordering on being just plain angry. This is been something tha I have been contemplating on and praying about for a while. Certainly more contemplating then praying, sorry to say. We started attending church when I was 8 years old, I am now almost 41. I’ll let you do the math, as I hate math. I started preaching revivals at 17 went off to bible college and after 3 1/2 years of college I dropped out before being kicked out. I bought into all that I was told about being gay, never investigated for myself because after all, my denominational officials, my fellow students and professors, my friends wouldn’t steer me wrong would they? I mean my brothers in Christ, who I studied with, prayed with, cried with, laughed with, counseled with wouldn’t just write me off. Would they?
Now on one hand I understand that most Christians don’t really study the scriptures, they may read them, if they do even that, but to really study them, the original languages, their historical context, etc. most Christians don’t do that. They let their ministers do that for them! So when the ministers, for whatever reasons don’t, the average congregant takes what comes from the pulpit as the “gospel truth” when it is really an interpretation. I don’t want to sound arrogant, I don’t expect everyone to come up with the same outcome of those scriptures that I did. I will say that I could be wrong, I don’t believe that I am, but that is where faith and allowing the Holy Spirit to lead a person comes into the equation.
You don’t have to agree with me, you don’t have to like me, but you don’t get to tell me that I am not a Christian. You don’t get to judge me that way, Jesus himself said so:
Don't condemn others, and God won't condemn you. God will be as hard on you as you are on others! He will treat you exactly as you treat them. You can see the speck in your friend's eye, but you don't notice the log in your own eye. How can you say, "My friend, let me take the speck out of your eye," when you don't see the log in your own eye? You're nothing but show-offs! First, take the log out of your own eye. Then you can see how to take the speck out of your friend's eye.
(Mat 7:1-5)(Contemporary English Version)
I think the Christian church, the evangelical mainly and the fundamentalist especially, needs to get back to the teachings of Jesus.
Wednesday, June 3, 2009
It’s no secret that I am gay, I don’t think it is anyhow, and also most who know me know that I was involved with the ex-gay movement for quite a long time before I was able to reconcile my faith with my sexuality. I am not saying that anyone who holds to the ex-gay school of thought is wrong, each person must live his/her own life. I don’t have the right nor the obligation to judge anyone’s life or behavior, as long as you are not going around bringing harm to people that is. I try very hard not to judge you, I may not hang out with you, but I will do my very best to not judge you. Now I have said that to say this, I have heard various people within leadership of the ex-gay movement talk about self actualization, and being free to live your life gay if you want to, that they exist to help those who struggle with unwanted homosexuality, etc. etc. But I have noticed from their writings those subtle little messages that they pass along to their readers either knowingly or unwittingly, but conveyed anyhow. For instance whenever they refer to a church that is primarily made up of gay and lesbian Christians is seems to be the “gay” church. Or when they talk about those of us who have been able to reconcile our Christianity with being lesbian, gay, or bisexual then they throw out words and phrases like, compromising, watering down the bible, settling for less than God’s best and their are others.
Let me say this, I don’t believe that I have settled for anything less than God’s best overall in my life. Yes there are times when I chose my own agenda over what I believe God would have me chose but I definitely don’t believe that is the case in my accepting being gay. I wish that those in the ex-gay crowd would say what they really mean to say, and please don’t assume that you speak for all of Christianity, because you don’t. My relationship with Christ is just as valid as yours is. I will leave you today with the words of Chuck Smith, Jr. whose father founded the Calvary Chapel movement, “Although the bible may be the inspired and infallible word of God, our interpretations of it are not.
Until next time, God bless.
Saturday, April 25, 2009
Tuesday, April 7, 2009
Friday, April 3, 2009
It's a big step forward in our equality but we have a ways to go.
Thursday, March 26, 2009
Most of the "christians" in this state, at least the ones I know, blindly follow the likes of Dr. Dobson without much thought, you would think his words were as equal to Jesus'. Sometimes I just don't feel like there is much use in fighting this fight anymore. I often wonder why God allows people who I know love and follow Him and pray religiously, and are never moved to even consider this issue.
Wednesday, March 25, 2009
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check out their site.
Friday, March 13, 2009
In 1990 I dropped out of bible college and left the ministry and yes, I threw myself full long into sex, drinking, promiscuity, overeating, making bad choices, etc. etc. I would occasionally attend the MCC church in Charlotte, NC but could never seem to reconcile being gay and being a Christian. It is a struggle that has taken about 18 years but has come around.